There’s a difference between desiring big things…and becoming the woman who can actually hold them.
Ambition often feels like living between two worlds:
The one where you are now and the one where you know you’re meant to be.
If you aren’t intentional, the space between can begin to feel like you are in limbo, like your life is on pause until you get “there.” Like until your circumstances change, right now isn’t good enough.
Unconsciously, you begin to expect your big vision to come save you. “I’ll be happy when….”
And the longer it takes to arrive, the more your ambition feels like a curse.
You give away your power to circumstances, without realizing your big vision wasn’t yours to begin with—it was God’s.
And if your power is given to circumstances, rather than to yourself and your co-creation with God, then the “less than perfect” circumstances that come WITH the big vision cannot be held by you.
When you learn to anchor into your identity as the woman who is chosen, the woman who is anointed for God’s big vision to be birthed through you, you become the woman who is responsible enough to be a steward of it.
It can be easy to pray for the big vision…
but have you developed into the woman who can hold what comes with it?
Are you the woman who can:
Hold the pressure
Approach the tough conversations
Commit to the vision no matter what
Face criticism
Disappoint people
Use her voice
Lead when it’s hard to
Become her first. The rest responds to you.
Thank You!
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~ Andi
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Your capacity to feel pain directly impacts your capacity to experience pleasure.
Think of a time you felt tremendous pleasure. Now think of a time you felt immense pain. Notice how both hold sensation. They are both simply…SENSATION. The only difference between pain and pleasure is simply that we resist pain. We turn away from it. Instead of being WITH the pain, we judge it as bad. “I shouldn’t be feeling this way.” “ I don’t want to feel this way. ” “Why do I have to be so sensitive?” “I’m so dramatic.” “This shouldn’t be happening.” When we don’t know how to feel pain, we don’t know how to feel sensation. And if we don’t know how to feel sensation, we also don’t know how to fully experience pleasure, because it’s sensation, too! The more you can expand your capacity to feel pain, the more pleasure opens up. And vice versa.
Have you ever had a whole new appreciation for your health and “feeling good” AFTER you were sick? You didn’t know how good feeling healthy was until you experienced the contrast. The increased pleasure was felt because of the heightened pain that came before it. What if all sensation = aliveness? What if feeling it all was what made you whole? What if you stopped cutting yourself in half, only accepting the high-vibe experiences, and instead embraced it all?
Answer this: What’s one thing that could make this moment 10 percent more pleasurable right now?
Thank You!
I hope you found this message helpful. If you’re interested in learning how to unpack your feelings, Let’s dive deeper!
~ Andi
Life Redefined Healing Therapists in Friendswood TX are here to help. Available for Telemental Health Sessions nationwide or in person. Schedule an appointment with us today!
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The Toilet Seat
Let’s face it. Living with another person is hard. Even in college with roommates, we got a little taste. Maybe Rachel or James never paid their portion of the rent on time, or maybe they always left dirty dishes in the sink, forcing others to clean up after them.
And you all thought, how crummy is that or maybe “can they really be that clueless?” In any case, when the time came to renew your lease with Rachel or James, the conversation probably looked something like an episode of the original Survivor show when they were voted off the island. Sorry, so-and-so, but we’re sick and tired of reminding you how to be a decent and responsible member of society. Well, fast forward to marriage, and sadly not much has changed, except now it’s men and women living together. Men generally have a propensity to leave their projects lying around, while a woman’s restroom area might look like a cosmetic counter at Macy’s. In both cases, it’s just normal until one of you gets tired of asking politely for them to please (through gritted teeth) put things where they belong. These seemingly trivial ins and outs of relationships make for good memes and even good fodder for sitcoms, mostly because we can all relate, but in real life, let’s face it. It gets a little old.
I use the toilet seat as the example, not because I’m making light of people’s problems, yours included. But I’m using it to highlight this principle. Whether the toilet seat is left up or down, whether the toilet paper goes over or under (it’s over by the way), the fact is none of these things is an insurmountable obstacle to using the toilet. If you really gotta go, flip the seat up or down, and I’m sure you can manage the toilet roll mechanism. The reason these things are so annoying is that they are representative of something bigger, something deeper.
Perhaps the time spent at golf is upsetting because of a lack in the relationship. Perhaps, the repeated requests to watch spending isn’t really about that $5 cup of coffee breaking the bank. So then what is it really about, and how can we move from the topic of discussion to the meat of the matter?
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As you can imagine, I’ve seen couples for dozens of reasons. Some are fighting to overspend. Others are fighting over not getting enough help with the kids or housework. Still, others are fighting over nickel and dime issues like how much time they spend on their hobbies, or maybe it’s on social media. And whether it’s finances, the in-laws, or frequency of sex, I can say in almost all the cases emphatically that the thing is not the thing.
When I was younger, much younger, cereal boxes used to come with hidden toys for kids. One of my favorite surprises was the special spy decoder lenses. They were usually red-tinted, and the goal was to help you ‘decode’ the hidden spy message on the back of the cereal box. And here’s what I want to highlight; the message was always there. The issue is it was hidden,
usually among a jumble of other shapes and misinformation. However, once you placed the decoder lens over the image, there it was, plain as day. Oh, what I wouldn’t give to be able to help couples see this clearly through all the jumbled emotion and misinformation. In fact, one of the biggest services that I believe I provide as a couples therapist is acting as a sort of translator, a decoder if you will. I get to
see couples in front of me, wrought with emotion, oftentimes bickering or arguing in front of me or recounting some instance of miscommunication between them in the last week. And almost every single time, both people feel like they’ve made themselves clear about why they’re hurt or upset, but conversely, they seem to be just as confused as to what their partner needs or wants. Many times, I have to run through the event with them play-by-play, if you will, pausing here or there to help them decode the missed messages that both of them are sending.
We must move from the topic of discussion to the meat of the matter.
JOSHUA CASTRO, LPC
SELF-CARE TO FIGHT STRESS
ANDREA R. JOHNSON
Chronic stress and anxiety can wear you out. However, self-care can be a powerful remedy that restores your mind and body.
Try these self-care techniques to find relief for your stress:
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As your life changes, your self-care habits will also change. You might find that oatmeal for breakfast starts causing stomachaches, or injuries that prevent you from exercising every day. Self-care can come from multiple channels. You can change things up and still find success.
Thank You!
“Self-care is a vital part of staying healthy and maintaining wellness.” Andrea R. Johnson